People often message me asking how I am able to be so body confident. I was not always this way. Being this comfortable in my own skin took time. When I was in high school I lamented my thick thighs. I didn’t wear shorts. When I was sitting in class I would rest my weight on my toes so that my thighs wouldn’t squish against my chair and appear even larger. It also didn’t help that people I considered friends called me thunder thighs to my face. 

What changed me? Graduating high school helped a lot. But mostly, it was cosplay. Suddenly my curves were being praised instead of scorned. I started to look at myself differently. Yes my thighs are larger than average. But so are Wonder Woman’s. Yes my hips are wider than average. But so are Beyonce’s. The confidence I gained from cosplay also came from doing what I love. I largely hid my nerdy side in favor of being friends with the popular kids. A massive mistake, I realize now. But allowing myself to be me and like what I like opened the door to expressing myself creatively through cosplay and modeling. And because I have such a good understanding of my skills and limitations, I’m confident enough as a person to know that what people think of me doesn’t matter. What matters is what I think of me. It seems like such a simple idea, but it’s so difficult to put into practice. I try to remember Eleanor Roosevelt’s words: 

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" 

If you don’t love you, how can you expect anyone else to? 
Alexandria the Red
Photo: Davann Srey Photography

People often message me asking how I am able to be so body confident. I was not always this way. Being this comfortable in my own skin took time. When I was in high school I lamented my thick thighs. I didn’t wear shorts. When I was sitting in class I would rest my weight on my toes so that my thighs wouldn’t squish against my chair and appear even larger. It also didn’t help that people I considered friends called me thunder thighs to my face. 

What changed me? Graduating high school helped a lot. But mostly, it was cosplay. Suddenly my curves were being praised instead of scorned. I started to look at myself differently. Yes my thighs are larger than average. But so are Wonder Woman’s. Yes my hips are wider than average. But so are Beyonce’s. The confidence I gained from cosplay also came from doing what I love. I largely hid my nerdy side in favor of being friends with the popular kids. A massive mistake, I realize now. But allowing myself to be me and like what I like opened the door to expressing myself creatively through cosplay and modeling. And because I have such a good understanding of my skills and limitations, I’m confident enough as a person to know that what people think of me doesn’t matter. What matters is what I think of me. It seems like such a simple idea, but it’s so difficult to put into practice. I try to remember Eleanor Roosevelt’s words: 

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" 

If you don’t love you, how can you expect anyone else to? 

Alexandria the Red

Photo: Davann Srey Photography

COMPLIMENTS THAT AREN’T ABOUT PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

1) You’re empowering.
2) I like your voice.
3) You’re strong.
4) I think your ideas/beliefs matter.
5) I’m so happy you exist.
6) More people should be listening to what you have to say.
7) You’re a very warm hearted person.
8) It’s nice seeing such kindness.
9) You’re very down to earth.
10) You have a beautiful soul.
11) You inspire me to become a better person.
12) Our conversations bring me a lot of joy.
13) It’s good to see someone care so much.
14) You’re so understanding.
15) You matter a lot to me.
16) You’re important even if you don’t think so.
17) You’re intelligent.
18) Your passion is contagious.
19) Your confidence is refreshing.
20) You restore my faith in humanity.
21) You’re great at being creative.
22) You’re so talented at ____.
23) I don’t get tired of you the way I get tired of other people.
24) You have great taste in ___.
25) I’m happy I stayed alive long enough to meet you.
26) I wish more people were like you.
27) You’re so good at loving people.

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